I come from (in my opinion) a medium sized-on-the-verge-of-large family – 6 kids.  I’ve thought that small families are better because I value close relationships and feared that large families equals more distant relationships.  After all, you can only be close to so many people.

So I married into a large (in my opinion) family – nine kids.  And four and a half years ago when I first met the family, 9 felt extra large.  And there was the confusion of fitting in with the sister-in-laws who were, at the least, 10 years my senior, or the nieces, who were 7 years younger.

Over the next few years, I found a very comfortable nitch with my sister-in-laws.  We get together and talk about cooking, and house work, and mature stuff.  We talk about good stuff, too, like dreams and hurts and loss and plans and desires.

I found a delightful nitch with the neices as well.  We get together and do crafts and talk about clothe and fashion and boys and  teen/twenty somethings mature stuff.  We talk about good stuff too, like dreams and hurts and loss and plans and desires.

This big family idea kinda started growing on me.  From the beginning, the big family get-togethers were enjoyable, really.  And, yes, sometimes the gatherings are chaotic and loud and everyones screaming for attention and no one is paying attention.  But I kinda, sorta like the chaos.

And then there’s the nephews.  We get together and talk about cars and computers and . . .  Just kidding.  They talk about that and I pretend I know what they’re talking about.

But about those nephews. . .  Three of them were here this past week and it was such a fun week.  I feel so priviledged to have these guys in my family.  And so blessed to have them come visit.

And I think. . .  What an honor that I got to marry Duane and meet all these amazing people in this large dynamic family and be included in this family.

The jury’s still out on what size family we will have.  Actually, there is no jury.  It’s us and God figuring that out -mostly God.  But I think I might kinda be voting for at least a medium sized-on-the-verge-of-large.

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  1. Jolynn  •  Apr 23, 2012 @5:38 pm

    Oh, Lucy. This post just sounds like you… you and your dreams. I love it. I’m excited to be in on the watching to see how big God plans your family to be! You guys are a starting your own legacy!

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