We Remembered You


May 16 will always be a date of importance.  There’s birth dates, first date dates, engagement dates, wedding dates. . .  And then there are death dates.  We remember anniversaries, good or bad.  Today was bad, but it was also good.  Today. . .

We remembered you.

We wanted to go visit your grave like most people do on a first anniversary.  We wanted to be with family, to share stories, to laugh together, to cry together, to heal together.

We wanted to, but we couldn’t.

So we – just the two of us – spent the evening togther sharing stories, laughing, crying, and healing.

We took a walk to 33rd.  We talked of how you loved to spend time with family, how you fully engaged and loved and hugged and laughed.  We remembered that about you.

We had a picnic.  We had those crackers – the gluten-free ones that you liked and we liked too.  They remind us of you.  We ate them, and remembered you.

I wore my hair in that rolled bun thing tonight in honor of a beautiful young woman raising her family in the jungles of Belize.   We remembered your love for beautiful things, your creativity.

We watched the slide-show that your youngest-born labored over to make for your funeral.  We paused it many times to reflect on details your sister Margaret had shared with us, to savor the pictures.

We watched part of the funeral.  We made ourselves cry as we watched ourselves share our hearts at the service where we remembered you.

We came back from 33rd happier then when we left because we had remembered you.  And you make us happy.

We love you, mom!

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  1. Jolynn  •  May 17, 2012 @8:31 pm

    I appreciate your eulogy (of sorts). What a meaningful evening… and it was good. :)

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